Porn and The Gospel

When Your Heart Wanders: How to Spot the Drift and Fight Back

In this raw and timely episode, Spencer speaks straight to the soul of every man walking the path toward purity. He shares how sexual sin doesn’t start in the bedroom, but in the heart. Drawing from Proverbs 4:23, he explains why guarding your heart is not optional—it’s spiritual life support.
You’ll hear the story of a brother facing deep relational brokenness because of compromise. You’ll hear how the slow drift into isolation and secrecy is Satan’s favorite trap. But most of all, you’ll be reminded of God’s promises, the power of confession, and the battle plan every man needs.
This episode is loaded with real talk, biblical truth, and powerful encouragement to:
Fight before the fall, not just after
Replace entitlement with worship
Trade secrecy for accountability
Pursue Christ as your true satisfaction
Spurgeon said, “If you want pure power in prayer, you must have purity in life.” You’re not just after freedom from porn, you’re after power for God’s purpose.
Key Verse: Proverbs 4:23 – "Keep your heart with all vigilance, for from it flow the springs of life."
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I Met a Millionaire Today

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Recently, I was attending a mastermind in Dallas and I wanted to share some thoughts I had about a successful investor with significant material wealth and zero debt. What can we learn, if we are payin attention, to those with tremendous worldly success in this life?
00:00 Introduction and Host Welcome
00:14 Real Estate Journey and Mastermind Experience
01:40 Insights from Successful Investors
04:02 The True Meaning of Success
05:45 Biblical Perspective on Wealth and Joy
11:24 Reflection and Encouragement
12:56 Closing Prayer and Final Thoughts

Is Willpower Enough?

In this episode of 'Porn and the Gospel,' we look at John 15:9-10 and explore how the principles of Robert Sternberg's Triangulation of Love theory can illuminate a deeper, more fulfilling relationship with God. I want to challenge you to evaluate your own relationships with God. Is willpower enough? Or does it require something more? Does it require deep emotional intimacy and passionate desire? This episode encourages reflection on how best to cultivate a rich, holistic love for God to combat temptations and grow in faith.

How to Have Power and Purity Every Day

The Morning Hours - Prayer, Power, and Purity
Psalm 5:3 ~ O LORD, in the morning you hear my voice; in the morning I prepare a sacrifice for you and watch.
Let me begin this by saying, I understand that some men believe that they work and think and get energy mostly in the evening. And in doing so, they don’t give much thought to how they spend their mornings. If this is you, I want to challenge your assumptions. I want you to consider that prayer and preparation in the morning is far more valuable than evening productivity.
The man who is at war with lust must not sleep in. This war starts before your feet hit the floor. David says, “O Lord, in the morning you hear my voice.” And Spurgeon said it like this: “Prayer should be the key of the day and the lock of the night.”
Because your enemy doesn’t sleep, rest, or care about your excuses, it is imperative that we wake early and begin with careful and precise prayers to our Lord and God. 

I Feel Hopeless - HELP (Questions from Listeners)

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In this episode, I'll be speaking specifically to a message from a brother who was looking for help and encouragement. This is what he said:"I feel so hopeless, I say I want to be free, ive confessed to friends and even to family. Set up accountability but I somehow end up isolating from them and going back into porn. I know it requires commitment to fight to make any progress.... I just can't seem to muster any lasting commitment. I really want to. I just don't seem to be able to and it's making me feel hopeless. HELP!"Tune in to hear how I respond.

The Type of Man You Can Be

In this episode, we'll explore the three characteristics of a man who experiences the presence of God. We'll be diving into Psalms 15:1-2 for much needed encouragement because, as men of God, there should be nothing more we desire than to live with integrity before the Lord in our daily lives.

Wake Up Before It's Too Late

In this episode, Spencer shares a deeply personal story about the recent tragic death of his brother-in-law, Mark Meadows, a police officer and Army veteran.
Sutton reflects on the fleeting nature of life and the importance of cherishing relationships over material pursuits. He emphasizes the urgent need for men, especially in the church, to engage in spiritual warfare against the schemes of the devil, particularly in the battle against pornography and sexual sin.
Drawing from Ephesians 6, Spencer calls for a renewed commitment to God, urging listeners to arm themselves with faith, prayer, and the Word of God. He concludes with a powerful message on finding joy in salvation through Christ as the ultimate remedy for overcoming sin.
00:00 Introduction and Welcome
00:52 Tragic Loss of a Loved One
03:15 Family and Community Support
06:58 Reflections on Life's Brevity
08:38 The Importance of Relationships
10:50 Spiritual Warfare and Armor of God
17:28 Call to Action and Encouragement
26:26 Finding Joy in Salvation
28:46 Conclusion and Farewell

This Is How Satan Deceives You

Satan's first trick to lure people into sin is to show them the bait while hiding the hook; to offer the golden cup but conceal the poison inside; to highlight the sweetness, pleasure, and benefits of giving in to sin, while hiding the inevitable suffering and misery that follow.
 
This is how he deceived the first humans. The serpent said to the woman, “You will not surely die. God knows that when you eat the fruit, your eyes will be opened, and you will be like gods, knowing good and evil” (Gen. 3:4-5).
 
“You'll have your eyes opened and become like gods!” That’s the bait—the pleasure, the sweetness, the gain. But what he hides is the hook—the shame, the anger of God, and the loss that will come for sure.
 
There are two ways our eyes can be opened: the mind can be opened to joy and contemplation, or the body to shame and confusion. Satan promises the first but delivers the second. He cheated Adam and Eve, offering them an apple in exchange for paradise, just like he continues to deceive countless people today. 
That's a paraphrase from Thomas Brooks

Does God Remember Your Frequent Failures

In this episode, we will reflect on the importance of identity and faith by examining the story of Moses in Exodus 2:11-15. We'll contrasts Moses's actions with the approach Jesus displayed in Matthew 9:36-38.
We must embrace their true identity in Christ, turn away from sinful temptations, and continuously look to God for strength and guidance. Join the community at themanofvalor.com to engage in deeper discussions and support.

Why God Allows You to Struggle with Porn

In this episode of Porn and the Gospel, we dive into the deep struggle many believers face with pornography and masturbation. Drawing from John 11, I discuss the importance of aligning our lives with God's perspective and purposes, even when it seems impossible. We explore the duality of the Christian life—both surrender and war—showing how true freedom comes from submitting to God’s will and waging spiritual battle against the flesh. Whether you’re in the midst of this battle or supporting someone who is, this episode offers encouragement and practical steps to refocus on the gospel and live in victory.